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Are Your Emotional Needs Being Met?


Whatever your background, from a Human Givens perspective we are all born with essential physical and emotional needs, and if we are born healthy the innate guidance systems/ tools to help us fulfil them.


When our innate emotional needs are not being met, or when our resources are misused, or not used at all, we suffer considerable distress, and so can those around us.


Our fundamental emotional needs are:

  • Security - safe territory and an environment that allows us to develop fully.
  • Attention - (to give and receive it) - a form of nutrition.
  • Sense of autonomy and control - having volition to make responsible choices.
  • Being emotionally connected to others.
  • Feeling part of a wider community.
  • Friendship and intimacy - to know that at least one other person accepts us 'warts 'n' all'.
  • Privacy - opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience.
  • Sense of status - within social groupings.
  • Sense of competence and achievement - from which comes self-esteem.
  • Meaning and purpose - which come from being stretched in what we think and do.

The resources nature gave us to help us meet our innate needs include:

  • The ability to develop complex, long term memory, which enables us to add to our innate knowledge and learn.
  • The ability to build rapport, empathise and connect to others.
  • Imagination, which enables us to focus our attention away from our emotions, use language and problem solve more creatively and objectively.
  • A conscious rational mind that can check out emotions, question, analyse and plan.
  • The ability to 'know' - that is understand the world unconsciously through metaphorical pattern matching.
  • An observing self - that part of us that can step back, be more objective and be aware of itself as a unique centre of awareness, apart from intellect, emotion and conditioning.
  • A dreaming brain that preserves the integrity of our genetic inheritance every night by metaphorically defusing expectations held in the autonomic arousal system because they were not acted out the previous day.





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Are your emotional needs being met? - Courtyard Wells - Natural Therapy Centre